Nearly 2 years ago I lost my job through modifications in the company I had committed my profession to. It was unanticipated, and I was surprised at the time. It took me lots of months to heal from the experience as I went through doubt about my capabilities, my future and myself.
What shocked me the most? Discovering the toll tension had taken on me. Operating in a large company is filled with changes, competitors and customs. If I just worked harder and ended up being known as a high producer I would be successful, I figured at the time that. Was I ever wrong!
Fast forward to today. I am building a flourishing training practice that is all mine. As I look back over the past year, I recognize I have learned something so important, so important that I do not believe I will ever select to work for another person again. I have discovered me.
What do I imply? Wasn’t I always me? Well yes, but I was working against the backdrop of someone else’s time, structure, worths and choices. It felt at the time like I was swimming down a rapid flowing river attempting to keep up with the twists and turns ahead.
Now I enter my home office every early morning with a sense of relief and calm. This is no river. This is a serene pool huge enough for me to play, produce, and most importantly push myself in instructions I pick to take. I am on a high learning curve and I still do not completely know what I don’t understand. That is one of the finest parts.
My day is filled with serving others, making decisions, designing new methods and building relationships. When I am most productive, I make my own schedule and align it to.
How I choose to show up is closely lined up to my brand. And my brand is me. I have finally discovered that I do not have to “show up” in a role. I do not have to “suit” to other’s norms. I do not have to play a video game with shifting guidelines.
Rather, I am finding what it feels like to live my own worths. If I do not believe a client is right for me, I can refer them to another person. If I wish to take a danger, like establishing online courses as part of my offerings, I can do it.
The only thing I should do is remain lined up with the International Coach Federation’s competencies, engage in on-going individual and professional development, and have my own coach. The rest is completely as much as me.
So, what does all this liberty really imply? I actually get to be the genuine me. And it feels fantastic. My tension has actually reduced considerably and my work life balance is well tuned. Very little rankles me any longer. I have energy to put on the best things like family, friends, healthy living, and new interests.
And most importantly, I can live my values to serve others. People have constantly been my focus. I think individuals are a business’s greatest property. When I realized this wasn’t the case, other than with lip service, in my former workplace, I knew I didn’t belong. Now when I work with people, they anticipate me to not just be a professional expert, they anticipate (and deserve) me to show up fully and totally as me.
My success in my service and my life depend on being my genuine me!
I am not for a 2nd suggesting everybody should work for themselves. Entrepreneurship is hard work and requires time and enthusiasm to reach the point of making an excellent living. It isn’t for everyone. It doesn’t suggest you can’t live your life on your terms. My sibling operates in academia and enjoys it. A friend works for a small company devoted to improving the lives of children. Both females enjoy their work and have actually developed a lifestyle that permits them to be who they really are. Sure there are constantly compromises, but understanding you can be the best variation of yourself every minute of the day is liberating.