Happiness is a way of life. But most of us are so busy running this marathon called life that happiness has taken a backseat. For many of us, the moment the alarm bell starts ringing we want to put it on snooze to get some more sleep. While there is no harm in wanting to sleep more, but do we really look forward to our day or we just drag ourselves out of bed each morning to do what we have to?
So here are five tips that will help you look forward to your day and to stay happy with each waking moment.
1. Count your Blessings
Start your day by expressing gratitude for everything that you have. It just takes a few seconds to smile when you wake up and to feel blessed for having another day to live and accomplish your dreams. Do you know that even simple things such as electricity and hot water were luxuries a century ago? But now that we have them, we simply don’t acknowledge their value in our lives. So, start your day by expressing gratitude for the smallest things to the bigger blessings in your life.
Be thankful for having a friend who understands you, a family who stands by you, a healthy body and so many other things that may have come easy, but have a very important role to play in your life.
2. Let Go
Your boss may have yelled at you or your colleague just spread a false rumor about you, making you angry and unhappy and disturbing your inner peace. But you have to choose how unhappy will you be and for how long?
Always remember that nothing that people do is because of you. Miguel Ruiz, author of ‘The Four Agreements’ says “What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
Rather than bombarding your mind with endless questions like “Why did it happen”, “What did they say”, “How did this happen” or Why “ME”, Accept the problem and focus on finding solutions. The longer you waste your time in thinking about the problems, the more your problems grow. So, tell yourself “This has happened, so now what?” and this will help you in tiding over any situation as your mind will focus on finding a possible solution to deal with your problem.
3. Be Selfish
A major hindrance to being happy is that friends and close ones do not reciprocate your feelings. You feel neglected, hurt and angry that you invested so much of your life, in a relationship and yet things have turned sour.
Do you remember watching the epic comedy show Friends, where Joe tells Phoebe that “there is nothing like a selfless good deed”? Well, it was perhaps true!
Whenever you are doing something for anyone, be it a friend or a family member; do not think that you are doing it for them because the truth is that YOU ARE NOT DOING IT FOR THEM! If you are making a sacrifice for a loved one, you are doing it because they will be happy and if they are happy, you will be happy.
Thinking that you are doing everything for yourself will end the blame game, and you will not feel cheated when people do not reciprocate, because at the end of the day we are all Selfish.
4. Don’t Compare
Comparison, whether you do it for yourself, or when other people do it for you, is always demeaning to your existence.
Comparisons have been ingrained in our value systems right from childhood. As a kid when you fought with your sibling, you may have heard “The neighbor’s kid is so well-behaved” or when you got bad grades, your mum may have said, “The other kids have done so well”. You may remember so many instances when you were compared to the so called “Nice kids, who do not give their mum and dad any trouble”.
When other people compared us with someone, we started thinking that comparisons are natural. However, they are not! because everybody has different skills and capabilities. Every person is unique in his or her own way. You may not be a good driver but you may be a wonderful cook or an amazing painter.
Also, there is logic so as to why you should not compare your journey with others. The law of Karma says, what goes around comes around. Your thoughts, words and actions boomerang and so if your present situation is not as good as someone else’s, it is because your karma is different from them.
5. Don’t Postpone Living
Work toward your goals but do not postpone happiness because of them. Never tell yourself that “I will be happy if I get this…” because it means that you are not happy at the moment.
Slow down for a moment and enjoy this journey called life. Try being happy today because there are so many reasons for you to do so, even if things have not turned out the way you had expected. Connect with nature, because you are a part of it, and Nature has the power to soothe your senses. Feel the soothing rays of the morning sun, the cool breeze and listen to the birds chirping on your window. These are simple and beautiful reasons to be happy!
Follow these simple tips so that happiness becomes a way of life!
Deepika Grover is an author, motivational blogger and a seeker who yearns to know life and to understand things the way they are, without any addition or subtraction. She is also an eternal optimist who believes that every setback presents to you an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve.