“Your own solution to success is more important than any other thing.” – Abraham Lincoln
Bianca rose to the sound of pigeons who cherish and stumble traffic on the street. As she hurried and stretched, she thought what was waiting for her on that day.
She felt her motivation slowly turning away with any deadline and effort that ziped her thoughts. When Bianca began to wake up and remember internally, she recalled the motivational pills she bought from Good Value Pharmacy last week.
There were yellow pills called ‘Money’, pink pills called ‘Pride’, green pills called ‘Family’, purple pills called ‘Respect’ and some ugly gray pills called ‘Nagging Advice’. The chemist had told her when he delivered the pills that some would work for her and some would not … he could never tell which pills would work for which customers. With that advice in mind and a smile on her lips, Bianca reached whom she knew she would be right for her …
One of the best things you can do on your self-discovery trip is to work out what you’re driving. The first step is to identify your values as they fuel the motivation and drive behind everything you do in life. If you value something, you always find the motivation and energy to do it. If you do not appreciate something, you always struggle to find the motivation and energy to do it.
Your values are important to you. They are the broad concepts that guide your decisions in life and form the basis for your character. Your values also determine how to spend your time. For example, if your main value is health, you will spend your time very much on someone whose main value is career or family.
Values also run your motivation. You will not follow any action unless it relates to something that you value at a certain level. Identifying your values allows you to start your own motivation, set goals, and spend time on things that are important to you.
How your values are formed
Your values come from a number of sources, including your family, friends, religion, school, teachers, country and media. They are also at any time in your life formed by significant emotional events such as natural disasters, emotional abuse, global depression or war.
Your values change as you grow and evolve. When you change your values, you also change your beliefs and the way you live.
How to identify your personal values
Identifying your personal values helps you to:
Understand why some problems are a problem for you;
See why some things motivate you and do not others; and
Identify and overcome problem areas of your life.
For example, suppose you have weight issues. You determine your personal values and do not even think that health and fitness include listing in your values. You may have found the reason why you have weight issues, that is, health and fitness is not something you deserve. Although this is still the case, it will be very difficult to lose weight and get a higher level of health and fitness in your life, as you do not have the motivation to do this.
You can identify your values by asking yourself:
What is important to me in relation to my life, career, relationships etc?
What would make me leave my life, career, relationships, etc.?
When you understand your values, it’s useful to see how they influence your motivation.
Your values drive your motivation. Setting goals that are tailored to your values will give you the motivation to help you achieve this. If you set goals that do not match your values, it’s an upward battle to reach them.
When you understand your values and their impact on how you motivate yourself, you have a great insight into why you achieve the results you make in life. You will also know how to motivate yourself more effectively in the future.
Motivation comes from yourself (intrinsic motivation) or from an external source (extrinsic motivation).
Extrinsic motivation that comes from a factor beyond your reach. It may have the form of inducements (rewards) or penalties. The rewards can be tangible or intangible (like praise).
Intrinsic motivation is clear when you go for your own activity without any external incentive. Research from Albert Bandura shows that if you have more self-efficacy (believe in your own skills to control your environment), you are more strongly interpreted than other people.
Since intrinsic motivation is the only thing you can bring with you and can call at any time, it’s most important in turn.